The Rio Grande Cichlid

The Texas Cichlid

The Texas cichlid (Herichthys cyanoguttatus, formerly Cichlasoma cyanoguttatum) is a freshwater fish of the cichlid family. This is the only cichlid species that is native to the United States. The fish, also known as Rio Grande cichlid, originates from the lower Rio Grande drainage in Texas near Brownsville and Northeastern Mexico.

1988 500SEL - The woman bought it in 1993. She loves this car. I was walking down the street and had to talk to her about it. Beauty.

3 Year Ago, I took my last drink of alcohol

No rock bottom.

Just a desire to be free of the repeating behavior of drinking more than I intended followed by empty promises for change.

From the time I wanted to quit to my last drink was about 3 years.

How did I know 3 years ago it was my last drink? I had no idea. I had quit and started drinking again so many times. But I knew that my time between was quitting was getting shorter. That is the key metric in my opinion.

I made the commitment and stayed present each day with that decision until it became easier and easier.

3 years later this change has been integrated into my being.

It started with taking a break from drinking.

But it could be any activity.

The big 4 are

  • Alcohol
  • Social Media
  • Processed Food
  • Porn

What these have in common? Seeking to numb out. The desire to escape.

Quitting alcohol has made me want to press further into life not escape it.

The point of not drinking is not just “Not Drinking” - but to build a life you do not want to escape from.

If I can be of help to you or if you want to tell someone that you are starting your journey, please send me a note. I would love to hear from you.

Rows: A Foundational Movement


This is a foundational movement that I have been working on. This month I start with a slight elevation in my feet to increase the difficulty.

I have 90 pounds or so left to lose but I am not giving up on remaking this 53 year old body while I have time.

Changes to Make to My Form

  • Keep Elbows closer to my side
  • Start with rings parallel to each other

The Key Metric in Making Change

The best advice I heard and verified in my own life is the following for quitting something.

Keep quitting until you have quit.

Step 1:

Decide that you are going to make a change. You know without a shred of doubt that it is bad for you.

Step 2:

Never doubt the decision.

Step 3: (if needed)

If you fail, repeat steps 1 and 2.

How To Track Your Way to Success!

The only metric I would suggest you track is the amount of time (mins, hours, days, weeks) that passes until your restart.

If you can shorten this time you are on the path to success.

If you ignore the fact you are off course then you are heading in the wrong direction.

The hardest part is to not ignore the truth that you have committed too.

Ignoring a problem can feel good in the moment but it delays the pain. We all know this.

When I wanted to stop drinking alcohol, and I would drink again, I stopped worrying about how many failures happened and I focused on starting again.

I would restart my journey.

It took me about 3 years.

The last time I opened a beer I took one sip and I threw the rest away. That was my last drink.

Your Friend.